We all make assumptions. We like to have everything figured out. We don’t want anything to come as a surprise. We assume a lot about our family and friends because we think we know them well enough to know what exactly they are thinking. This all leads to misunderstandings and misinterpretations.

Assuming is more for us than the other person. We like to know how the person would react to something before they actually do so that we know how to handle it. It’s sort of like damage control for them and us. We never really know the other person completely no matter how much we try or get close to them. People will always react the way they please.We assume also to make ourselves feel a certain way. We would rather have an answer made up if we don’t get one cause it’s better than having nothing to explain our doubts.

That’s why I don’t like to assume much cause I know I am not in their head. At least I try not to assume and ask them straight up. But for me it really depends on how important that person is for me. I have seen many assume a lot about me. They think they know me. When I give them the reaction that they assumed, they take it as a win and from then on think that they have me all figured out. My reactions are reasonable most of the time so if you piss me off, I will be pissed off like I will not suddenly start laughing. It’s common sense.

Assumptions can be very dangerous for any sort of relationships. It doesn’t do any good to anyone. It makes things worse or it doesn’t get you where you want to be after having that certain conversation. Unless you are that person, you cannot assume anything of the other person. We are each to our own. There is really no point in assuming anything. I don’t see the point of it as it hasn’t done me any good in my personal experience.

Instead of assumptions, it’s better to talk it out with that person no matter how ugly it could get. That bubble will get bigger and bigger and burst one day all because of how you decided to make decisions for the other person too. You will lose the person. The last thing you need is someone creating someone you are not to their own convenience.

Indian Chameleon’s Obiter Dictum for the Day
You can’t control everything in your life. You, especially, cannot control people and their actions. But you can control what you do.