Pain. It keeps you up at night. It creeps into your mind like a malefic spell casted upon you. You don’t know the cure. You are confused on how to go about to get rid of this “Pain”. We don’t have rosy days every day. We dread the pain days. I have had quite a few where I have sat into the morning trying to figure out my mind. You go through it alone.

Pain can be physical, mental, or emotional. It can be a heartbreak. It can be a loss. It can be a sickness. It can be trip down memory lane. It can be many things. Suddenly your mind can control you in a way that your body collapses into this state where you are numb. You just lie there, dead. It comes to a point where you don’t know how or if you should talk to someone. It comes to a point where you don’t know what to do.

I’m all for asking help. But these pains creep into me in the middle of night. When my thoughts come creeping preparing me for another sleepless night. What are you supposed to do in the middle of night? And even if with help, you are reluctant to ask for it over and over again. These pains keep coming back into your lives periodically. It takes time to find the cure and to move on from the traumatic experience.

I write. I take it out of my head and put it on my phone, laptop, notes, or notebook. At least it’s out of my mind. But then you are tempted to write and write and write various versions of the same pain. It becomes a vicious cycle all of a sudden. You might even start crying or wanting to scream. You will do anything to stop the pain. That pain suddenly becomes a bully. And you are the victim.

That’s when you know. That you have to feel the pain completely. Take your time. Accept it to move on. The only way for you for you be cured is to feel it to the core. It’s hard and it takes a lot out of you. It will exhaust you. You can ask for help but we both know that YOU are the only one who can really cure it.

That’s where willpower comes into the picture. Understand and accept that pain in order to live with it. And that is when it will lose its power and you regain your control over your mind, body and soul. That’s when the pain diminishes. It will always be there but you control the intensity and importance it holds.

Indian Chameleon’s Obiter Dictum for the Day
It gets better. Trust yourself and keep pushing yourself. There will be a light at the end of the tunnel but you have to keep walking.